01 The child is not a device, is there a communication problem?
Recently, the costume drama "Qing Yu Nian" is currently on the air and its reputation is quite good. What impressed me most is the small clip of Fan Sizhe being punished by his father.
In the sixth episode, Fan Jian suspected that Fan Sizhe colluded with the prince to set up a trap to frame Fan Xian, and immediately asked him to punish him without asking a question.
Fan Sizhe was accustomed to punishment by his father. The atmosphere did not dare to ask, and he did not dare to ask why he was kneeling.
Until Fan Xian came back to explain to Fan's father, Fan Sizhe was not a deep-hearted person. He heard others say something good to his father, and he did not hesitate to rush forward to fight and even fight.
Fan Jian was quite touched when he knew the truth, and he also changed his thoughts.
In Fan's heart, Fan Sizhe's failure to complete the text, Wu Wuji, is simply a useless bag, so when things do not need to say a lot, take it for granted that Fan Sizhe's problem, punishment of kneeling is naturally a common occurrence.
In Fan Sizhe's mind, trying to communicate with his father is obviously not the right choice. There is a lack of communication with his father all the year round. Perhaps he has never imagined the scene of talking with his father in his thick head.
It was their subconscious refusal to talk that led to misunderstandings and disappointments. The reason why Fan Sizhe became Fan Zifan's incompetent son is also the product of his wrong communication.
"Mom can communicate, children are better" wrote that wrong communication will bring pressure, pain and discomfort to children, and make children want to escape as soon as possible, regardless of whether they will choose to refuse to communicate.
The son is obsessed with collecting money, hoping to follow his father's footsteps by accumulating wealth, eager to get his father's approval. However, in his father's eyes, he was good at the art of business and the method of collecting money. Father and son are weak, lack communication, and are misaligned with each other.
If the two parties are frank, chat, and communicate properly, the father can tell his child his expectations and be a guide in his life, and the child does not have to approach the father in such a stupid way.
Once the door of communication is closed, the parents' preaching and teaching will become empty talk. In the long run, how can children be excellent?
02 Children who often chat with their parents have better language skills